Don't assume the victim knows you believe them, don't assume they already know.
it's not the victims fault
Don't pass judgement about the attack. An example would be saying; "That's horrible that it happened to you, but how many drinks did you have?" The last thing a victim needs is someone they trust victim-blaming them.
Be respectful of privacy and confidentiality
The survivor has chosen to tell you their story. Don't tell anyone about their story without the survivor's permission. Be sensitive to the fact that the survivors might want to spend alone time, and encourage self love.
bE A GOOD LISTENER
When the survivor opens up, keep this in mind:
DO concentrate on understanding the survivor's feelings
DO allow silence
DO let the survivor know you are glad they disclosed to you
DON'T ask "why" questions such as "why you went there?" or "why you didn't scream?"
DON'T interrogate or ask specific details about the sexual assault
DON'T tell them what you would have done or what they should have done
you & the survivor are not alone.
All decisions are up to the victim but encourage to seek medical treatment, counseling and/or press charges against the assailant. Even after the shock, be there to support through flashbacks, post-traumatic stress disorder, fear and trouble sleeping or concentrating. Even when your supporting the survivor lean on the YWCA of Greater Flint.
The YWCA Great Flint will not let you go through this alone. Call our 24 hour hotline. It's FREE. CONFIDENTIAL. (810) 238-SAFE (7233)
If you're in immediate danger or feel unsafe, call 911.
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